S.2 Ep 7 | What If "Doing It All" Is Costing Me What Matters Most?
I’m living into the question of what happens when we stop letting urgency run the show, especially when urgency is shaped by survival instructions we didn’t realize we were still following. This episode came from a week that left me totally run down. Not because I didn’t get everything done, but because I did, and instead of feeling proud, I felt depleted. I’m reflecting on the moments where I override my own limits, when I default to prioritizing what feels most immediately tense or pressing, and how that can unintentionally mean those closest to me receive what’s left over. I explore more about what my survival instructions have been, how this patterns has played out in my life, and what I’m learning about living more congruently with my energy, time, and relationships. This is a conversation about unsustainable doing, softening control, and what it looks like to build a more honest and sustainable rhythm, one where we don’t abandon ourselves in order to keep the peace or "hold it all together."
Key Topics Discussed:
0:00:00 – Intro
0:01:00 – The Toll of Burnout on the Body
0:03:10 – Getting It All Done and Not Feeling Proud
0:05:30 – When Urgency Kicks in and Who/What Gets Left Behind
0:08:50 – The Cost of Trying to "Keep Everyone Happy"
0:11:30 – Unpacking My Survival Instructions
0:13:45 – The Mirror of Relationship
0:16:00 – The Exhaustion I Couldn’t See Until It Affected Someone Else
0:18:55 – Rewarded by Society, Misaligned with My Soul
0:22:00 – Practicing Not Offering What I Don’t Have
0:25:00 – The Pattern of Prioritizing the Loudest Tension
0:29:00 – Fear of Upsetting Others as a Root Wound
0:31:30 – Facing the Mirror of “This Is Unsustainable”
0:34:45 – Meeting My Protectors with Compassion
0:37:10 – Shifting the Pattern and the Greater Impact of It
0:38:45 – Living Into a More Loving and Connected Way
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