Ep 7 | What If Overextending Isn’t the Path to Love?
What if taking good care of yourself isn’t selfish — but the very foundation of how you care for others? This episode explores the tender, tangled process of shifting out of over-functioning, especially when people-pleasing patterns run deep. I reflect on the internal tug-of-war between the fear of being “too much” or “not enough” and the slow, sacred work of learning what true boundaries, congruent giving, and right relationship with self can look like. If you’ve ever struggled with guilt around saying no, or felt overwhelmed by nuance when all you want is clarity, this conversation is an honest and compassionate space to land.
Christabel Mintah-Galloway, RN, BSN's IG Posts I reference:
"Put Your Mask On First" Is Individualism, Not Universal Truth: https://www.instagram.com/p/DGlmPrxR_pz/?igsh=OXlhc3FnamFwOWw3
The West Teaches "You Can't Pour From An Empty Cup." But Collective Societies Say: "If Your Cup Has Even A Little, You Share.": https://www.instagram.com/p/DGdvIy3Om7s/?igsh=ZnlzZHBxeW5naG9h
Key Topics Discussed:
0:00:00 Intro
0:00:16 Shifting Over-Functioning Tendencies
0:09:58 The Nuance of Self-Care
0:14:53 Exploring the Mind-Body Connection
0:18:24 Understanding Over-Functioning
0:27:18 Reframing Over-Functioning
0:30:03 The Importance of Right Relationship
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