Ep 12 | What Opens When We Stop Trying to “Fix” Ourselves? A Conversation w/ Holly Lowery-Davis

Written By Courtney Koester

What does it mean to be with yourself so fully that it opens a door to something greater? In this final guest episode of Season One, I share a deeply personal and expansive conversation with my somatic coach, Holly Lowery-Davis. Together, we explore how cultivating a relationship with the Self — through the body, through presence, through emotion — can become the very pathway back to something beyond us: Spirit, Nature, Meaning, Mystery. Holly shares the living question at the heart of her work: How do we honor the stories of our pain without becoming them — and what becomes possible when we do? This is a tender invitation into the slow, sacred work of becoming — with ourselves, and with something greater.

Connect with Holly:

Holly Lowery-Davis is a certified somatic practitioner, group facilitator and educator with 7+ years of professional experience in the mental health sector. Holly offers body oriented one-on-one support to help clients to process their feelings more fully, gently heal unresolved trauma and chronic stress responses, learn to support their nervous system, and develop more presence, agency and consciousness. Prior to moving into private practice, Holly spent 6 years working for Ophelia's Place, an eating disorder non-profit, where she oversaw the development and implementation of educational and community support programming. It was this work with the eating disorder community made it clear how critical it is to bring an embodied framework to healing, and ultimately led Holly to re-certifying as a somatic practitioner. Holly has worked with dozens of 1:1 clients, held over 150 support groups, and led numerous professional presentations and workshops to both clinical providers and individuals interested in mental health, the nervous system, eating disorders and embodied healing.

Holly’s IG: https://www.instagram.com/hollylowerydavis/

Holly’s Podcast: https://somaticcoaching.substack.com/podcast

Holly’s Website / 1:1 Somatic Support: https://www.somacoachholly.com/

Holly’s Free Resource | Feel Your Feelings Toolkit: https://www.somacoachholly.com/feelings-toolkit


Key Topics Discussed:

0:00:00 – Welcome

0:06:16 – Aliveness Through Pause: Honoring What’s True in the Body

0:11:38 – The Living Question: Body, Mind & Something Greater

0:19:14 – Trauma, Spirit, and the Alchemy of the Self

0:26:27 – The Spiritual Ego and the Illusion of Doing It “Right”

0:33:13 – Presence as a Path to Connection

0:41:56 – Feeling as a Form of Spiritual Practice

0:47:13 – Honoring the “No” and Building Capacity

0:53:53 – Listening to the Body’s Wisdom

1:02:15 – Nature, Spirit, and Resources Beyond the Self


Share Your Voice

What questions are you currently living into? What’s been on your heart or mind—something you’re navigating, exploring, or trying to make sense of in your life? I’d love to hear from you. Leave a voice message at the link below, and your question might be featured on a future episode of Living the Questions. Let’s create a space for open, thoughtful conversation together. Leave a message here: https://www.speakpipe.com/LivingTheQuestions

Book a 1:1 Conversation Session

Feeling the pull to explore something more deeply? These 1:1 conversation sessions are a space to bring your questions, challenges, or curiosities and be met with presence and care. Whether you’re seeking clarity, support, or simply room to reflect, we’ll journey through it together. Learn more + book a session: https://www.ckoesterinspired.com/conversation-sessions

Ready to take these conversations deeper?

Living the Questions isn’t just about exploring big ideas — it’s about living them. If you’re craving a space to untangle what’s true for you, witness + relate differently with old patterns, and step into a more aligned, embodied way of being, my Rehumanizing YOU coaching offerings might be your next step.

This is a space for deep inquiry, integration, and transformation — where we invite curiosity to become clarity and insight to alchemize into action.

Curious? Let’s explore together: ⁠https://www.ckoesterinspired.com/coaching-offerings⁠

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